"but you don't.....
-A Perfect Circle
An invisible disability is considered an umbrella term to connote any disability that is "hidden". Most of these are primarily neurological in nature. It can be anything from epilepsy to bipolar disorder to ADHD and Autism (ever heard of it?). Basically, they're disabilities that can't be detected just by looking at a person. Early on in our journey people would say things like, "she doesn't look funny" or "you can't even tell...."
Since it's not "obvious" by just looking at the bird (as long as she's not
scripting talking or flapping spinning moving), some people don't get it and think she's just ignoring them or not listening or misbehaving. It's especially awesome when she walks up to a kid and squeezes their arm because she doesn't quite get "Hi, I'm the bird, let's play!"
People with invisible disabilities are definitely treated differently and usually aren't given the amount of patience and tolerance they need. I feel like I often have to justify the bird's behavior so people understand she's not being a bratty, disrespectful kid (although....).
When we went to Disneyland last month, we used the
ha-ha suckers special access pass to avoid long lines and meltdowns. As we entered the Mad Hatter's Tea Party (aka the vomit-inducing spinning teacups), a man shouted at me, "that's the exit! why don't you wait in the line like everyone else?!" I walked up to him and said, "yeah, ummm, we are with a child with a disability." Douchey Doucherstein replied, "oh, I'm sorry." "Yeah me, too, dude. Me too."
|Here's my bird having a great spin on the teacups, completely oblivious to the d-bag behind her|
It's an interesting dichotomy since I spend so much time and effort helping her reach her potential and blend in a little bit better. I do worry about people punishing her for not behaving the way they'd expect her to based on how she looks. Although, apparently D-bagitis is also an invisible disability and you can't really tell if someone has it just by looking at them. Unless, of course, their collar is popped and a huge medallion is swinging around their necks- and as soon as they open their mouths, it's totally obvious.