A sassy, crafty mama bird from Los Angeles
raising a very sweet little girl with Autism
and a new baby boy in the Midwest... and other stuff, too.

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

My thankless job

I had just washed Little Bird's cozy flannel sheets and the blanket we use on our couch when LB says/asks, "want mommy snuggle blanket?" I wrapped her up in the warm blanket, fresh from the dryer and watched her smile grow wide. Later when I told Greg about it, he asked me, "do you think she'll ever get it? All the things we do for her?"

People say it all the time: motherhood is a thankless job. Of course, most kids grow up and get hip to the sacrifices their parents make and eventually say thank you. This is another thing that normie parents experience that we parents of kids with special needs just don't get.  We don't get a whole lot of those unsolicited I love yous or thank yous. There was a study that someone did showing that if a stay at home mom was to be paid, she'd be making $120k or something like that. But, we moms (and dads) of kids with special needs also take unpaid part time jobs as occupational, physical, speech, and play therapists. I think that puts me somewhere worth the $5 billion mark. But, nope. I get paid in dirty laundry to wash, dinners to make, and messes to clean. Awesome.

But, I do get a bonus:


12 comments:

Anonymous said...

It is true that the kids don't get it because all of that care and love is all they have ever known. But you get it and Greg gets it, and that is an important bond between parents of all kids. As you get older, those bonds are the things that make you look at each other, and smile. Mom

Cheryl D. said...

Great post and right on the money!

@jencull (jen) said...

Me too! Mind you, I started working part-time recently, from home thought because I can't really work outside it...........similar surveys done her didn't value us Mums as highly though!! Jen

tulpen said...

Hell. Yes.

Heather said...

I think LB gets it. I like to think Brian gets it. They just may not be able to express it as easily....


LOVE the picture of you and LB!

Sunday said...

You hit that nail right on the head!

But, I think we're worth more around $8 Million...just because I said so.

LOL

Lynn said...

It would be nice if Anonymous was right and your spouse took up the slack for a child that can't express or acknowledge how much you do. But I don't get that either. Wah wah.

sugarmagnolia70 said...

Amazing post. And you're right.....the bonuses are priceless!

sherri said...

that is one beautiful picture.

Chris P-M said...

So very, very true... but those bonuses are definitely worth it!

I find that these things come and go in waves. For a while I'll feel incredibly grateful, then things turn a corner and I'll become resentful. (maybe hormones? ;)

The bonus is so worth it (and taking some credit for LB's progress, hey?)

Laura @ The Things I Said I'd Never Do said...

What a beautiful photo.

Anonymous said...

Couldnt agree more with that, very attractive article

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