A sassy, crafty mama bird from Los Angeles
raising a very sweet little girl with Autism
and a new baby boy in the Midwest... and other stuff, too.

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Special Needs Blog Hop: Stress

The question for this week's Special Needs Blog Hop is "How do you handle stress?"

My answer: Not Well.

Thank you very much.


Okay okay, I'll give you more than that. I'm emotional. I wear my feelings on my face. No poker face AT ALL. I have a hard time separating logic from emotion. I react. Then I slowly allow logic back into the equation. Usually when applied correctly, the logic helps me recognize that things are actually okay.

One of the biggest gifts Autism has given me is the great ability to NOT sweat the small stuff. Many things have come up that would probably have driven me crazy years ago and now I can go, "meh... no biggie." When comparing most issues to the things that ARE big deals in my life today: where will Little Bird go to school? Will she ever have real friends? Will she ever be able to dress herself? Will she live with me forEVER?, That's when I put things into perspective REALLY quick!

So, I guess perspective helps me deal with stress. That and Xanax.

I get a babysitter once a week so my husband and I can go out together. I read books (most are not autism related). I workout (not enough). I eat sweets (enough). I talk about it. I talk about it to you, to fellow special needs moms, to the people who love me even if I'm a little crazy. So, thanks for listening and for helping me de-stress!


14 comments:

Tammy said...

Hi from the Special Needs Blog Hop. I'm glad you are able to get a babysitter. Once or twice a year, I am able to.

dotcomkari said...

Stopping in from the Special Needs Blog Hop. You have a good way of looking at things. :)

tulpen said...

Xanax knocks me out for days.

Wine works well enough for me.

And yelling at telemarketers... awesome for some stress relief.

jillsmo said...

Yay Xanax!! :)

Blessed2BaMommy said...

Thanks for visiting me; stopping by from the special needs blog hop...

Sounds like you have some good outlets for de-stressing.

Jean said...

Learning able to separate the crap from the real problems has been an unexpected benefit of autism in our house too.
I'm new at the blog hop thingy so i hope I do it right XXX

Varda said...

I hopped on over from my blog (The Squashed Bologna) to say hello. Am totally in sync with you about the stress thing. In fact for those of us w/ SN kids, it's pretty much all stress all the time (I said as much in my post).

You may think you're not dealing with it well, but if you're blogging and tweeting and part of a community, you actually are doing great.

"Not well" is locking yourself in the bathroom with a bottle of vodka and ignoring your crying child (and I don't think you are there) -- anything above that level of coping is terrific.

Brenda said...

Medication ... I'm all about medication. YOU have very constructive ways of dealing with your stress. ME, I take it out on my husband. My very patient husband. AND I throw up on my blog every week. AND I pull my hair. Not really, but I FEEL like pulling my hair. I'm pretty sure your way is better.

Stacie said...

I think sometimes I react and then stop and think it through. Not sure that came out right. LOL Thanks for joining us in the blog hop.

Amanda said...

Between autism and the Army, I learned a long time ago there's no point in sweating the small stuff. Good thing too because my 2nd child is WAY more OCD than our 1st.

Joanne said...

Hi from the SP blog hop. I am super emotional too - I am always embarrassing myself by crying at every damned meeting I have about my son. I'm not even sad, I just get overwhelmed. It's crazy. Anyway, good for you for getting a babysitter every week and especially reading the non-autism books. Smart!

Lynn said...

Hey you just got back from vacation! Stressed already?!?! HA. I'm with you on the better living through pharmaceuticals..

Looking for Blue Sky said...

You sound like you cope with stress in a very level headed way - going out with your husband and doing normal stuff is so important to stop everything getting too much xx

Dani G said...

It's been great getting to hear from others about how they handle stress... especially since this stress isn't goin' anywhere!!

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