I've told you about Lori before, and her efforts to raise awareness and funds to fight cancer. But what I will remember her for is her kindness and her unabashed acceptance for anything that deviated from the norm. She was always the first to tell me that she didn't care if my kid was having a rough time or was "off," she'd insist that we come over and play anyway. She was the only person who volunteered to take the bird for a few hours while we said goodbye to Sugar Magnolia. She probably got that generosity from her parents. One year while walking the track with her parents at the Relay For Life, they learned that we have no family here. They immediately insisted that we spend holidays at their house. And we did.
Lori passed away yesterday after fighting for a long 5 1/2 years with cancer. It was discovered just 6 weeks after delivering her gorgeous, smart and funny little boy. Can you imagine? You've just had your first baby with the most spectacular guy- you're over the moon- and then... this. Never would I ever say that Lori lost her fight. She kicked the shit out of that cancer. We're talking stage four ovarian cancer. She'd knock it down again and again every time it reared it's ugly head. She endured all kinds of therapies, clinical trials, etc. She was so brave and such an inspiration. Truly walking through this whole long illness with grace and dignity. The last six months had been rough. She lost her dad to the same disease. She was in pain. She wasn't happy. But she was still funny. I'm forever keeping our text messages to prove that!
Yesterday I noticed that a few people visited those old posts on this blog (yes, I can see that). So, I did, too. I looked back at others, as well. Others that Lori had commented on. Just reading her words made me sad. I'm so sad for me and for all the people who were lucky enough to call her a friend. This is a tremendous loss for us, but the universe is better off for ever having had her in it. The stars are very lucky tonight, because I know she's up there shining among them.
Thank you, Lori for letting me into your life; for being a friend that I could always count on; and, well, for just being you.
**Hey, if anyone is near 26th and San Vicente in Santa Monica, please grab a drink from Zen Zoo tea and tip a little bit out for my homie. It was one of her favorite places!!
Here's a link to Lori's blog. You can read her own words and you'll recognize right away just how special she was.
It is suggested that those who wish to further honor the memory of Lori Haber Buckfire may do so by making a contribution to:
Karmanos Cancer Institute