A sassy, crafty mama bird from Los Angeles
raising a very sweet little girl with Autism
and a new baby boy in the Midwest... and other stuff, too.

Monday, March 22, 2010

Mommy's Little Skater Chick

"Heaven is a half-pipe"

It's finally springtime here, so last week I took Little Bird to the park around the corner from our house. She and her friend, Jolie played on the big play structure and then made their way over to the skate park. LB was mesmerized. She loved watching the skateboarders.

She wanted in that cage so badly, she told me, "mommy, I need scissors" (presumably to cut through the fence). Super cute. I got home and asked my husband to get her a little skateboard ASAP. He did. {Full disclosure: there happened to be one laying around his office}
Even if she never really uses the skateboard, she still looks totally awesome with it. 

Sometimes it's hard not to give in to her  overindulge her  buy her things that might help her along (yeah, that's it). She honestly has the most amazing basement in town and I can totally justify every piece of awesomeness...

Six foot trampoline: helps to provide proprioceptive input
Cuddle swing attached to the ceiling: vestibular input
Drum set: sound/sensory stimulation and coordination
Tunnel: motor planning
Fifty inch plasma up on the wall: well, that's Greg's and I simply cannot justify that one except to say that some boys are kinda dumb.

The thing is, we've been at this since day one (okay, since day 183). Everything we have seems to serve a purpose toward helping her along in one way or another. I am reminded once again of the amazing book called Overcoming Autism by Lynn Kern Koegel, in which she states that's it's okay to give in to overindulge buy our kids with special needs things that might help them get along and be accepted socially. Look, I didn't make the rules, but it's totally true that the kids with the cute clothes, newest gadgets, etc have a better chance of being accepted and included. I remember running into a friend last summer at this same skate park. She was there watching her 10 year old son with Autism receive a skateboarding lesson. How "cool" is that?! It seemed brilliant to me. I do NOT want to think about the bullies, or about the kids who won't play with Little Bird because she's different... or the moms and kids who have left us behind (I know some of them are reading this and yes, if you think I might be talking about you, I probably am). Instead, I choose to think about the Jackies, Jaimes, and the Elisas of the world (there are others, too) who have neuro-typical kids and have come into our lives knowing we're a little bit different, but still ask us for play dates. The world is changing. They way people look at kids with special needs is changing. Some of the "leavers" (I'm pretty sure I just made up that word) might soon be the ones getting left behind (and not in a kirk cameron kind of way).


Debra said...

can i come play in your basement?

My name is Erin. said...

I have a wonderful friend who's kids love Abby just as she is. I'm so thankful for them. I haven't had many friends who turned out to be leavers, but then, I usually left before they could. Maybe that's one of the benefits of moving around a lot. I also want to come to your basement for a playdate.

Jessica Gaynes said...

Seriously, Dani: you amaze me! You are such an insightful, intelligent, perceptive person / woman / mother. Really-Really!

Heather said...

I love having a reason to overindulge, i mean buy brian all those cool toys- like swings/trampolines/tunnels- I just got him a Giga ball that he can get in and roll around (saving it for his bday- I hope he loves it!) Little Bird looks soooooooo cute as a "sk8r grl"!

Elisa said...

Tears are streaming down my face!!! xoxo

Dani G said...

Thank you for you, Elisa.

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