"You get what you get, not deserve"
Ok, so last week a woman I know updated her facebook status to read "we get what we deserve. period." And I'm just not feeling it, so I commented "disagreed." I mean, I tried to cut her some slack and figured that maybe she was pissed at someone and she was trying to send a message to that person, but NO! She actually replied that she really does feel that way. I don't. I can't figure out what I could have done to deserve Autism in my life. I can't figure out what 5 month old Shay did to deserve a stroke; can't figure out what so many of my amazing friends did to deserve the cancer that is making them miserable.
I remember a few years ago, my friend and neighbor Carol asked me how I ever got over my fear of airplanes (something she has yet to do). Without missing a beat, I replied, "I got real problems." It's so easy to think something is a big deal until you are faced with a REAL big deal. Nothing puts things into perspective like a real problem. I still wanna give this woman the benefit of the doubt and assume that she doesn't really mean that we get what we deserve. I do think that it takes a big struggle to put things into perspective, but for her sake, I hope she stays in that state of bliss that only comes from ignorance. Because I, like others who have been faced with real struggles that they did NOT deserve, wouldn't wish them on anyone else.