"You don't know me at all"
-Ben Folds/Regina Spektor
A few days ago I received one of my Daily Kaballah Tune-Ups; this one was about judgement. I'm so freaking zen that I get daily Kaballah emails with little things to think about that day. Then, I read a great blog that my friend Randy wrote about passing judgement. I guess there's a theme here and I'm gonna jump on the bandwagon.
I know what it's like to be on the receiving end of judgement; I know how people can think you're something you're not, someone you're not. I know that just because you've lived one way in the past doesn't mean you're living that life today. I know that you may not even be the same person you were then. I am grateful to have been on the receiving end of judgement because its given me the chance to know that you never know what's going on with someone; never know what goes on behind closed doors; never know what someone's experienced in childhood, a year ago, a week ago, this morning. I try to cut people some slack and give the benefit of the doubt. It's hard. It's not natural to me. It's natural for me to judge, assume, and label. It's natural for all of us. My first thought might be to judge, but as long as my second thought and first action is giving people the room to be themselves, and accept them for it, I'll feel a lot better. After all, that's what I want from others... a little slack.