A sassy, crafty mama bird from Los Angeles
raising a very sweet little girl with Autism
and a new baby boy in the Midwest... and other stuff, too.

Monday, March 23, 2009

Is it gonna be okay?

"I got a really good heart
I just can't catch a break"
-Ryan Adams
Ran into a girlfriend at the gym yesterday. She was relaxing at a table while her son was occupied in the kids center. He had been there for an hour and a half and she wasn't ready to get him yet. He gives her grief sometimes and makes her crazy. So normal. It's so important for me to hear these things because I don't know that's normal. I feel like that ALL the time, but I don't know that's normal- I just assume it's a "special needs issue". But it's not. It's normal. All moms feel like that sometimes. I think my situations are exacerbated by the special needs issue, but it's not ALL about that stuff.
I have no idea what is normal and what isn't. I know my life is tough. It's really, really, really tough.
This girlfriend assured me today, that she has shared my feelings and every mom feels a little bit of it sometimes. I say this all the time, but this is the reason that we NEED to talk about our feelings. No one knows what is normal or not. Instead, too often we keep things inside, afraid that we are so different, damaged, or failures. When we can be assured that our feeling are normal and typical, we can take comfort in knowing that others have walked through these feelings and situations before and we can be okay.
Really, that's all I ever want to be assured of: that it will be okay; that I will be okay.

2 comments:

lorib said...

its normal. totally normal.
and i have noooo problem being open about anything....so if you ever want to hear about how fucked up someone else can be....stop by any time. youll probably leave feeling a whoooole lot more normal! :)

Anonymous said...

A wise person once said....
Every family has a cross to bear or trying times....
It's how a family manages the challenge that determines the fate----not the challenge itself.

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